Demi Lovato is going to launch The Lovato Scholarship Program in honor of her father. 

it’s so refreshing to see someone as famous and popular as she is with teen girls be so honest about mental illness

It’s also really refreshing to see a celebrity putting money into getting actual treatment for people, not just vague “awareness”.

Add this to the list of reasons I like her.

She is so amazing. Words can’t describe how much I love her.

(Source: a-c-i-d-k-i-t-t-y)

After all of this I can’t hate these guys, still. Yes what is alleged of them is horrible but at the same time, I have to look at both sides here and say that these girls can’t push all the blame here. Yes many of them were underage at the time but I have to ask, where was the Con security (there is none), where are their parents and where are the girls’ sense of right and wrong? Yes many probably had low self esteems and issues of the sort but many, even if they were young, should know better than to chase after these people they idolize. If you’re older (yes I’m about to date myself as the ‘older’ one here) than you know all about the groupie culture of the bands of the 1960s-1990s. These girls & full grown women were chasing after these stars, on purpose, with the full intention of being with them.

The YouTube community hold so many positive memories for me. It’s helped me find a group of friends that truly understand why I can watch ridiculous things like a guy dancing in plastic bags while re-working the words to a Katy Perry song. YouTube is unique because so many of the people who have amassed such a large number of views and no fans have been able to do so not because they are elite or special, but because they have passion for something and chose to share their passion with others who also are passionate about it. When you think about it, YouTube can kind of likened to that after-school club you were apart of. Everyone is there because they have a shared interest. But then in a group there always have to be the leaders, the ones that all the others look to for guidance because they may just be *that much* better than the others. Some people can handle that added attention just fine; thrive under it even and use it to help everyone else. At other times, the added attention goes straight to the individual’s ego and they transform into a different person, and everyone else in the group will either turn on that person, or they will let them get away with it - so is the nature of ‘celebrity’ on any scale.

In this day and age the whole ‘celebrity’ persona has shifted and these people have become plenty more accessible to their fans because of things like YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and Instagram. They are able to interact with their fans like never before and this is where we run into trouble. Yes you can interact with your idol but they can always track whomever they want down and get to them on a private level too. This is where their parents/guardians, even their friends come into play. A parent, without being overbearingly protective, should KNOW what their child is doing online, what they are watching and who they are talking to. There should be an open dialogue between a parent and their child about what is going on. If a child isn’t being 100% truthful, then perhaps they shouldn’t be doing what they’re doing in the first place. I know I girl I work with has a second cell phone she keeps from her parents because they track her phone and read her messages. Yes that may be a little crazy but her second cellphone is where she keeps all her messages from boys and she’s constantly using her friends as cover for what she’s up to, sometimes without her friends even knowing. That whole situation is just a little insane. Especially since the girl’s parents now have a tainted view of her friends since she’s snuck off and done things and her parents think the friends are in on the whole thing. And from what I’ve read many of these encounters started out as something so innocent. It was only when the dynamic changed that the people in question started to feel uncomfortable. I get that it may be hard to tell someone that you’ve come to care about how you feel, mostly out of fear that they will now reject you but in any/all cases if the person truly cares about you, and not what they may be trying to get from you (personally, physically, whatever) they will take what you’re telling them to heart and change what they are doing. If they’re saying or doing what they’re saying or doing simply to get something out of you, I’m sorry but yes they will get mad at you, and yes they will probably stop, if only to move on to the next person. I’m sorry to say that not all people are as nice as the face they put forward into the public eye. If enough of the ‘ugly side’ comes to light, no they probably won’t be in the public eye for too much longer but if they care about their career and having a supportive fanbase, they may decide that they need to change. In my experiences meeting/befriending ‘celebrities’ the positive outweigh the negative and true to form, the nice guys’ and girls’ careers thrive while the others suffer (but there are always those exceptions where even the jerkiest jerk will be successful because they are the top at what they do.). We can’t control that either. What we can control is whom we choose to idolize. If we make the right choices there, we should never have to worry about suffering personally, no matter if we ever meet them or not.

In the same vein, if you teenage son/daughter wants to attend a fandom convention, especially if it’s not that close to home, there should be no reason that the parent isn’t there supervising the child. Or if not all the parents, a good number of them from a group of friends. These parents don’t need to be following their kids around the Convention the whole time but they should have a copy of the child’s planned schedule, and a way to contact them at all times. They should also physically check-in with all the kids in the group a few times a day (at least 3). This way, the parents and kids both know what is expected of them and there is less chance of them sneaking off to do something they shouldn’t. Security was also a big thing my friends and I have seen severely lacking at some ‘smaller scale’ cons. Security may seem like a pain but it’s there to protect the Con organizers as much as it is the guests themselves. In a society seemingly obsessed with liability and ‘suing for damages’ (I’m talking State-side anyway, it doesn’t seem as prevalent in Canada) you would think an event organizer would want to protect themselves from anything that could put the event in jeopardy; be it between event attendees or attendees and the talent, or even between multiple members of the talent. It may seem like just another expense to add on to the list of ‘never-ending’ expenses it takes to run a con but I may argue it is probably one of the most important. If an emergency situation arises and there is no one around to be able to direct everyone and the scene turns chaotic, who do you think is going to bear the brunt of the blame? That’s right, the group putting on the event. If there is security there to intervene and take control of a situation, small or large scale, you’re insuring that everyone feels safe and has the best possible experience. This will create more positive buzz about an event than negative and help the event grow in the future, instead of being tainted by accusations and allegations.

When it comes down to it, I can’t tell you what the truth of the whole matter is, even on a case-by-case basis. I can only share my personal experiences, which are all positive. I’m truly sorry to all those who have come forward and respect their bravery to do so. But I can’t pick a side in this whole thing, I just have to choose my path off of the truth I know. And as more things come to light, and if they are proven to be true, my opinions on certain people are allowed to change. But I cannot condem someone from something someone else said they allegedly did without proof to back up a claim. I may decide to be more careful on how I handle situations, but I’m not going to do a complete 180 on how I behave without serious reason to.

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